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Why You Should Want to Have Your Mind Blown

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Un-Game Principle: While not comfortable, the examined life is an empowered, more peaceful life.

Caution. The word ‘should’ should raise a red flag in your mind. It’s usually used in a sentence that has someone else’s answer for a problem or challenge of yours. If only it were that easy. But no, answers that work for us are usually hard-won and gained in our own green time. What you can do is try another’s words on to see if they make sense to you. To your best Self, not your worst self, that is. You do know the difference, don’t you?

In our comfort zone nothing blows our mind. By definition, we’re at ease there, even when we’re critical of something or someone. After all, it’s familiar, and familiar is comforting. Life looks and acts as we expect, and we ourselves are well-applauded actors on its stage. That would be just fine if life stayed put or we were willing to settle for a tepid existence. But life doesn’t stay put. Rather it is unpredictable and impermanent, and like it or not, that’s the challenge and opportunity that’s ours to master. And to master life’s challenges, we need to expand our comfort zone.

What expands our comfort zone is a good question to engage with. Not just once because if you have an answer, you close the inquiry down, and learning something depends very much on an awakened sustained curiosity. Yours!

Consider the following as one answer of possible many answers:

Your comfort zone expands only when you get out of it and are willing to consider something that blows your mind (is at the edge of or outside of your known territory). ”I can’t” is generally a statement that calls the comfort zone home.

A manager (parent/teacher) who has the belief “I should control and correct my employees” (children, students) would have his or her mind blown by someone who believes “Employees (children, students) produce ordinary results when micromanaged.” Imagining oneself in a different mindset with different behaviors is akin to drifting in a rowboat without oars. Needless to say, few of us could imagine ourselves relishing that experience, and so many of us stay right where it is comfortable. We do the same thing over and over again. And if it’s uncomfortable, we keep on anyway, hoping for different results. Exhilarating? NOT!

No wonder things don’t change easily. No wonder we wonder: “Isn’t there more to life than this?”

Our discomfort has much to teach us. If we’re courageous and do what feels counter-intuitive, namely embrace the discomfort and engage with the thing that blows our mind and may send us into an “I can’t” fit, we may discover that there are some surprising gifts. We might see an employee from whom we stopped expecting good work become motivated. “Hmm, I wonder what my micromanaging had to do with his underwhelming performance?” Or we may hear words of genuine appreciation that were sparse when we micromanaged. We may get better results than the results we were able to even imagine with our old mindset and behaviors.

Who knows? Life (and people) are unpredictable. Accept rather than fight it.

If we persevere, we may discover more and more benefits of being a catalyst for our and others’ growth and learning rather than the embodiment of the command and control model that’s decidedly dead, just not buried everywhere yet. More importantly however, we get to discover that the new mindset and behavior, so strange and uncomfortable at first, has now been incorporated into our comfort zone. Our comfort zone has expanded. And so has our peacefulness.

Isn’t that prize worth the willingness and the courage to have your mind blown?

Try it on something you think you could not possibly change. How about doing, doing, doing? Hurrying, hurrying, hurrying?

Have I now gone from preaching to meddling? Welcome to your discomfort zone!

2 Responses to Why You Should Want to Have Your Mind Blown

  • Pam Thorp says:

    This was a very helpful blog and was a good reminder to be self observant and not allow ourselves to slip into complacency or a stale comfort zone. Accepting the ever changing world of interactions and adjusting and developing a new mindset can go a long way in readjusting your world view and personal happiness. This blog was very helpful and thoughtful!

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